Best online couples counseling

Best online couples counseling? You feel that things are not right in your relationship and that “something” needs to change. Perhaps something has happened or your relationship has fallen into a rut over time, love seem distant.

Clarity through couples counseling

Your Love’s online couples counseling is supervised by a regular couples counselor and is available immediately. In 13 steps, the couples counseling will make it clear to you IF and HOW a ‘SAME’ is still possible.
Attachment, emotion regulation, communication, dealing with criticism, conflict, fears, jealousy, infidelity, connection, loyalty, intimacy, sexuality, relational needs, and separation are topics that will be addressed.

How does online couples counseling work?

After checkout, you will receive two emails. The first email contains the access code to the online couples counseling.
The second mail contains a link to the personal page of your regular couples counselor. On this page you will find information about who and how you can communicate with if you have questions about the couples counseling.

What does online couples counseling cost?

For AU$ 215, you and your partner have one year of unlimited access to Your Love’s online couples counseling and the guidance of your regular couples counselor.

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Results of online couples counseling

There are three possible outcomes of couples counseling. You believe in each other and want to address the pain points to be able to build a lasting, loving, intimate relationship from a healthy grounding. A relationship where the balance between trust, attention and tension allows intimacy to grow.
When no more together is possible, you know you have done everything possible. In the end, you are left with two options, a respectful “marriage of convenience” or divorce.
Whatever the outcome, you have learned a lot about yourself. The insights are ‘building blocks’ for a happy life, because you too are entitled to happiness!
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Traditional versus online couples counseling

The goal of traditional and online couples counseling at Your Love is to allow partners within the relationship to get closer to each other step by step. The path towards it is different.
Traditional couples counseling starts from an intake followed by joint and individual sessions with the couples counselor. Exercises for at home are part of traditional couples counseling.
In the online couples counseling of Your Love you first go through 10 individual steps where you learn to recognize and acknowledge positive and negative interaction patterns. This way you are prepared for the 3 joint steps which consist of constructive partner talks.
In the partner conversations, the behavior patterns are discussed and you are given tools to break the negative behavior patterns. This can lead to a lasting loving intimate relationship.

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In the individual part you actively search for answers to questions such as: ‘Who am I in the relationship, what do I feel, what do I want, what do I expect from my partner and our relationship?’ This part can be confronting, but for that very reason it is also enlightening and instructive.
After completing the individual part, you can articulate what your wishes are within a loving intimate relationship. From step 11 you start the partner conversations to be able to decide in step 13 how and if you want to continue together.
If you continue together, then in step 13 you will get tools on how you can work on the points for improvement. If you decide that it is better to separate, then you will also be given tools for this.
The total turnaround time for online couples counseling is about 3 months.

Origin of methodology

Couples counseling is based on EFT, CBCT and IBCT supplemented with consciousness insights. EFT focuses on emotions and feelings to explore and resolve relationship issues. EFT is less appropriate for relationships where communication or psychological problems are at the root. For this purpose, elements from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBCT and IBCT) and conscious thinking have been added to Your Love’s online couples counseling.
  • EFT = Emotionally Focused Therapy
  • CBCT = Cognitive Behavioral Couple Therapy
  • IBCT = Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy

Affordable couples counseling

Since 2004, the methodology of Your Love has been continually developed and, over time, transformed into online couples counseling.
The reason was that relationship problems were, after depression and anxiety disorders, one of the most common reasons for treatment within mental health care. By health insurance companies, relationship problems as a primary complaint are no longer reimbursed.
Thus was born the need for affordable couples counseling that is accessible to all.

Online couples counseling is always useful

Online couples counseling is in 80% of the couples the solution to continue with each other. Even in couples where one of the partners was skeptical or negative at first. If the stubborn partner does ‘click’, then these are often the go-getters.
If the relationship problems have not been addressed for years, chances are that the love has died out. Due to detachment, it is almost impossible to rekindle it. Feeling is not manufacturable and cannot be rekindled by couples counseling.

After time-out

Did you break up and after some time there is a desire from both partners to continue together? Then it is highly recommended to first follow the online couples counseling.
The couples counseling helps prevent you from falling back into old negative interaction patterns, which can once again lead to a breakup.

Relational needs

When we talk about a good relationship, we are talking about a lasting loving intimate relationship. A relationship within which you feel loved, valued and respected. That is what we strive for in the online couples thera of Your Love.
The enduring loving intimate relationship fulfills three important relational needs:
  • Need for bonding
  • Need for togetherness
  • Need for own space

Need for bonding

Attachment is about the need for emotional connection within a love relationship. Think about the need for love, appreciation, intimacy, support and security. Much of what goes well and not well within a relationship has to do with the degree of meeting this need of attachment.

Need for togetherness

By need for together we mean the need to function together (socially). Partners in a love relationship form a ‘functional’ unit in the social, societal, financial and legal fields. The relationship also needs to meet caring tasks, such as caring for children or sick relatives.
The reason was that relationship problems were, after depression and anxiety disorders, one of the most common reasons for treatment within mental health care. By health insurance companies, relationship problems as a primary complaint are no longer reimbursed.
The relationship must also provide for other social functions such as maintaining social contacts, work and income, housing and living needs.  Most couples live together and form a legal unit, are jointly responsible and liable.
It is not uncommon for partners to be more occupied with social tasks than they are with spending time together for a good conversation. Conversations in which things are coordinated, arranged and tasks are divided. If this is not done properly, it creates dysfunction in one or both partners which leads to dissatisfaction within the relationship.
In practice, it is common for partners to have a good functional unity, but the emotional connection has been compromised.

Need for own space

Within the relationship there should also be room for the individual needs. By this we mean, among other things, one’s own development, one’s own identity, one’s own career, one’s own space, one’s own opinion and one’s own social contacts.
Too much compromise and adjustment for the sake of the relationship and satisfaction of the other can later lead to dissatisfaction, disruption and distance in the relationship. When conflicts are not expressed, or when one partner is very dominant and the other is too accommodating, this can also lead to disruption.


Relational needs are not merely about attachment and affective needs. Communicating with each other and understanding each other are just as important for making compromises, reaching agreements, caring and organizing.
Disruptions at the attachment level will directly affect the quality of the attachment bond and partners need to repair it whenever possible. Examples include breach of trust, growing apart due to too little time together, or decrease in passion and affection.
Disruptions in the areas of togetherness and personal space will not directly affect the attachment bond, but if left unresolved, they may begin to do so over time. Examples include stress from persistent money problems, work problems, social or psychological problems.
The ongoing problems lead to growing frustration, annoyances, arguments or loss of respect.
As needs are met, the relationship can continue to develop and the bond of love becomes stronger and stronger.
Your Love’s couples counseling helps you work on yourself and build on your relationship.
The best online couples counseling in Australia? It’s about Your Love!
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